Venting my feelings; always looking for reasonable people.

Okay, as a disclaimer, I understand that not everybody is like this; to say that every human is the same, regardless of circumstance, is simply not true. So, with that out of the way, let’s begin.

My first problem is blocking. There’s really no sugarcoating how I feel about this, like reporting; more on that later. Blocking is generally the easiest way to escape a situation rather than try to improve it. Instead of trying to understand how the other guy must feel, we don’t. I confess I’m an advocate for empathy. If there’s a better choice to be made, and there always is, I want to try at least to make things better for someone else.

The only non-negotiable exception to blocking is if the person in question is not interested in being good to anybody—and they clarify that point. If they have malicious intent and are a clear threat, then it’s no-holds-barred; you get blocked.

My second problem is reporting; yes, you knew this was coming. Reporting by itself is not bad, nor is blocking, even if that might contradict my vent. These things are only bad if you use them abusively to get even, shut someone up, or flex your L33T computer skills on some hapless fool. No matter how you try to rationalize it, It’s still an abuse of its initial purpose.

Report or block only those who truly deserve it, right? That makes sense, and it’s understandable. But I elect that we try to make an honest effort to connect with others, you know? It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you have good intentions. Going through this eternal song and dance reminded me of why I used to hold such raw contempt for humans. If your loathing can match or exceed a category six hurricane, then I think we could all agree that’s pretty bad.

Thankfully, I’ve long since abandoned such vitriol in favor of compassion, which I am very happy to have discovered. I’m always open to a pleasant and reasonable discussion with everybody.

The other day somebody came up to me and asked me for advice on how to “make a new Telegram account with the same phone number,” and when I asked them why, they said it’s because they wanted to ghost someone that they didn’t want to talk to. After a bit more discussion, I confirmed that the other person did nothing wrong, they just… didn’t want to talk to them anymore, and instead of being a decent person and explaining that and saying goodbye, they wanted to go to the effort of moving to an entirely new account just to avoid them.

Still working on trying to convince them to actually just try and resolve the problem rather than being a dick about it, but we’re getting somewhere…

@Background Pony #1850
If you want to ghost somebody, you have problems; ghosting is for cowards who cannot face you directly like a man. This “nobody owes you an explanation” rhetoric is a feeble argument that solves nothing for anybody. You don’t need to open a new account just for that—you could, sure, but why would you want to?

You could kindly tell them you no longer wish to speak to them; be transparent, like a man. Block only when necessary if they begin to harass you, you know? Very few people want to speak to you about whatever ails them about you; quality of communication be damned.

Let’s play devil’s advocate then and say that the person in question did cause trouble, regardless of the situation. If you want to make a new account, do it yourself; don’t make it someone else’s responsibility. Most accounts are not difficult to make; you only need a legit phone number and E-Mail address.

Right off the bat, this guy gives me MASSIVE malignant narcissist vibes. Because you just know that he won’t see anything wrong in his decisions. He might even justify them. Instead of doing something independently, he asks you for help on something that isn’t difficult to do. I’m sorry, but I cannot respect someone like that.